Wife wants Divorce, I do Not

[MrBond]

You still do alot of mindreading since you're spinning all over the place.

"People can change and I will. No, you don't want that now."

This part was throwing the situation in her face and blaming her. Won't help you at all. Just because YOU are finally willing to do the work doesn't mean that she needs to believe you.

"I will continue to do what I need to bc I've learned what was missing, what was wrong, and I will be better for it."

That's fine.

"You don't want to be a part of it."

Very passive aggressive. You didn't want to be part of it first even when she asked you.

"I won't be staying much longer."

And what do you think your ultimatum is going to do? Won't help your sitch.