You could have done everything perfectly and this crisis would have happened. Because it isnt about you. It is about her demons.
You have learned all this when you were supposed to.
You are a better man for it. That matters, too.
Glad uR was around reply to your post...I read your post a bit ago today and didn't know how to put into words what I was thinking.
T2, all I know of you is the guy I read about on here...and I can "see" clearly how much work you are putting into being a better man.
It's great that you have discovered these things for yourself...but you absolutely cannot beat yourself up about it.
What matters is what you do from here on....to keep DBing and being the best you that you know how to be NOW. We can all look back and wish we'd been better spouses back then...but we can't change any of it.
So, face forward....and keep moving forward. You are a help to so many of us.
