Divorce on the table, Hoping for miracle

[jp787]

DB coach said to send the letter?

Posting my Last resort Letter for feedback:

Wife,

I understand that you feel are done and finished with our relationship. and will be moving on.

I would like to share some of the ways I feel I have not met your needs in our time together.

-Not meeting your emotional needs
-Not including you in all of my/our decisions
-Not taking the time to understand your needs
-Not telling you how much I appreciate everything you do
-Not spending enough quality time with you
-Not communicating to you how much I care for you and love you
-For getting defensive when you would communicate and ask me questions
-For not hugging and kissing you enough
-For making you feel like you were raising the kids on your own
-For not planning and doing more things as a family
-For offending or embarrassing you with my sarcasm.
-For not telling you often enough how beautiful and amazing I think you are.
-For not taking you on more dates
-For spending too much time on my hobbies, work, and Xbox
-For not holding you close, telling you that you look beautiful and kissing you goodnight
-For not asking? and sharing our days
-For not being kind and tender
-For not kissing you goodbye
-For not coming to bed with you
-For not looking into your eyes
-For not making time to talk to with you
-For not holding your hand
-For not showing compassion for your frustrations
-Not being interested in you
-For being unbelievably selfish
-Not acknowledging you when you speak to me
-For not kindly accepting requests for help
-For not being grateful for the meals you cook Or do you mean “for not showing my gratitude for the meals you cooked
-For not putting my cloths in the laundry bag
-For not taking out the trash
-For not taking my dishes to the sink
-For not taking notice and help with household duties
-For making you a nag by not doing things without your asking
-For not seeing your good intentions
-For not playing and loving our babies more
-For not Helping you get the kids ready and out the door
-For not helping get the kids cleaned up after dinner time
-For not being willing to do things with the family that I may not be interested in
-For not helping the kids when they need it
-Not taking the kids out for daddy time more
-For not making love to you (not just sex) and hold you in my arms and speak quietly to you
-For not cooking more meals
-For not taking a the lead in having regular Family home evening
-For not having daily scripture study
-Not having daily prayer
-Not attending the temple with you (monthly)
-For not setting aside a few minutes a day to do some quality talking to with you.

For all of my failings above I humbly ask for your forgiveness apologize .

If you think this is an attempt to manipulate. It isn’t.

I know and believe that divorce is not the answer to our problems. That being said, I truly have an endearing love and respect for you. I will not stand in the way of a divorce I am able and willing to release you from our commitment if that is what you choose.

As painful, difficult and heart-wrenching as this is for me, I have awoken from a dark slumber in a fog of life. I find that as I painfully opened my eyes, it as though I have been born again. I have been led and have heard the voice of the lord in my heart and mind. I have glimpsed the path ahead for me. I now know who I really am. I also know whose I am ? . I am becoming the man, the friend, the brother, the son, the father and finally husband I am meant, and always wanted to be.

Please do not respond to this letter

Sincerely with Love,

Groov