Ambivalent, I know you are reeling and I do understand the feeling of being smacked again w/this latest text message. Take the time to find your balance and even if it means that you don't seek out legal advice until after the holidays, then so be it.
When the holidays are over, sit down and make a list of your expenses on a weekly/monthly basis. It sounds like he's not planning to pay the mortgage and would like to let the house go. May I ask you a question? Is the mortgage in both names or just his?
You will need to ask the lawyer about spousal support until you find a permanent position. What your h is going to provide to you may not be the proper amount in your state. You could very well get more or less...this will be something only you can visit w/the lawyer. If you can receive more, then go for it. If it's less, then I think I would leave it alone.
Are the credit cards joint or separate? If they are joint, you will need to ensure that your name is taken off of them and vice versa. Get your own cards to start establishing credit all on your own once again.
I do believe that you and your daughters can make this work...but all of you will need to put your heads together and work as a team. Your daughters will need to understand that Daddy Warbucks isn't going to be very forthcoming w/helping out w/the finances in the future.
Ambivalent, you are going to be okay. You are strong and very independent. You are creative and I know that you will find a way to make this work.
Get thru the holidays and then focus on what you need to do to ensure your financial situation. Come here to vent...we are here and we will try to help you any way that we can.
Mostly importantly, please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
