Reaching out for support and advice!!

[bluesgal]

Well, we've had a turn of events.

My H has been slowly getting more and more unpredictable and disrespectful with his choices. Most recently, he took a large sum of cash out of our checking account without reason or informing me. He also has had no contact with his kids. (Very out of character pre-bomb)

My kids have been so upset by their dads absence and I have been so worried with the $$ situation, I finally called a L this morning and decided to file for legal separation. I cannot let my family be financially destitute while he lives like a teenager.

After consult with my L, I texted my H with the info about my choice and what it means and left it at that. My H immediately called me (He never calls me anymore) and we spoke for 2 hours.

He said this is not what he wants. He wants to try to work things out, but doesn't know how. He doesn't want to hurt the kids but can't seem to dig himself out of this hole. He is hurting and depressed.

He asked to move home (he's been out a couple of days because of his anger scaring me) He asked if we could try to work things out, but take it slow. He wants to go to counseling.

Now, I am not excited. I know he is emotional and this is another peak of his rollercoaster. I believe that he wants to work things out, but can't see how. I don't know how either. Any advice? I don't know where to start with this. I am very calm right now. I know that he may change his mind again, soon. I would like to do my best when he is willing to 'try'.