I didn't say push it through or do any work for her or act for her sake alone.

The process is already in motion, right?

KdoGS said this: She has not responded to that email, and I really don't want to be dealing with this over Christmas/New Years/my birthday Jan 2. I am going to lay low for awhile and see what step she takes next unless you have some other advice to offer?

If she responds and wants to talk, I'm saying talk. Don't push it off unless she's willing to do that. If she doesn't contact you, she doesn't contact you.

She did request that it be handled expeditiously.

I'm not saying you act expeditiously just because she asked but what is the win in acting the opposite? I'm also not saying act carelessly in regard to your interests. Take the time you need to make good decisions, just don't drag things out for effect.

I think it even says in DR not to hamper the process once it's in motion.

Does that make more sense?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss