"He doesn't have to be nice and get because he doesn't want to get back together"
"H said we can try to get along for the kids......"
Don't for a second think this isn't true in his mind. He only wants to get along for the kids sake right now, that's it.
Your responses are just confirming his leaving. Your trying to put your control stamp on his actions. Your not really listening to what he's saying, your trying to take everything with a grain of salt but spin it into that he's trying in some way. He's not.
With your title, and the info from your previous thread, he's getting his needs met in other ways right now, and your "hypocrite" comments are really making it easy for him to see things aren't going to change much.
Are you being the person only a fool would leave right now? Or do you think your coming off nagging, clingy, controlling to him?
It sounds like you need some distance cause your still trying so hard to defend/protect yourself. Your like me, not a natural DB'er maybe? It takes a LOT of work, and we still mess it up many the time.
You keep ripping off your own Band-Aid. There is no mystery, your not working on you, your still stuck on working on "us". Maybe a change of mindset is in order.
It took me a long time to come to terms with the idea my marriage was over, dead, done. She's gone. She's was having at least an EA, and some of my totally uncharacteristic (clingy, begging, defending myself) actions put her into a full PA.
I want so hard for you to understand I think your doing the same thing right now. Your pushing him further away right now.
I know this is very raw for you, your in emotional turmoil, and now with the holidays it feels so much worse at times.
One thing is true that he said too, he doesn't have to be nice, be thankful he is. There is a lot of people that would be thankful for the interactions your having. Don't take them for granted, who knows how many more you will get.
