Stuck in the mud!

[Pudmuddle]

My wife includes me in everything that is happening in her life. If it just weren't for the void of intimacy in our relationship this would be great.
It is this living together that is tough. Being in a loveless relationship [censored].
How can I break down those walls or am I beating a dead horse worrying about it?

I am in this exact same position with my H, 2L. I feel this pain. My H says he stays for our S. The loveless, non-intimate part is painfully difficult when everything else appears so normal (whatever normal means). We can only hope that their niceness means there is a part of them that still cares.

I've decided I want to see what happens in our M, so I keep standing and try not to worry about it. But it is different for everyone. It does come and go in waves so hang in there.