That's a tough one. I definitely wouldn't want to reassure her that everything will be okay because that's not your job now. I think you told her before that as long as she's with OM, you will not be in a relationship with her. I would tell her that your position remains the same, so you're taking steps to ensure you can continue to afford the house for you and your daughter by offering a roommate situation to your brother. Then I wouldn't say anything else. I wouldn't worry about pushing her toward OM, it is to your advantage if she sees you dropping the rope and letting the cards fall where they may.
She is scared because she feels she's losing control of the situation, and that is to your advantage.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
