F4, how has it worked for you in the past to allow your emotions to drive your actions? I ask because I know that it has not worked well for me. When something is not working well, we need to try something else. Have you read the chapter in DR about cheeseless tunnels?
In the same vein . . . of course you want your W back. That's why you are here. If you look at how things have gone so far, ask yourself whether initiating R talks, asking her for answers, etc. have helped your sitch.
Is obsessing over your W helping your sitch? Is it helping you? Or is it hurting you?
Yes I have read DR and I understand everything you are saying intellectually, it is applying this is the moment & overcoming, suppressing the emotions & urges that is so difficult to do.
Me: 34, Wife: 34 Son: 2 Married: 8, Together: 14 Wife moved out 8/25/2013 Divorce papers received 01/10/2014
