People say you should do it for yourself & become a better person with or without your wife, but I don't want to be without my wife, all I want is my wife back so I don't think I can stop spinning, worrying, obsessing over her.
Yes my emotions are certainly driving my actions & they always have done.
F4, how has it worked for you in the past to allow your emotions to drive your actions? I ask because I know that it has not worked well for me. When something is not working well, we need to try something else. Have you read the chapter in DR about cheeseless tunnels?
In the same vein . . . of course you want your W back. That's why you are here. If you look at how things have gone so far, ask yourself whether initiating R talks, asking her for answers, etc. have helped your sitch.
Is obsessing over your W helping your sitch? Is it helping you? Or is it hurting you?
I am a very emotional person, I get very sentimental & nostalgic about things. Even when me & wife were together I was very emotional & my emotions would drive my actions. [/quote]
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
