Stuck in the mud!

[2little2late]

I have read that since my wife gave me the "ILYBINILWY" speech that she more than likely is having an affair or had one.
My ex-wife gave me that same speech as she was walking out of the door 18 years ago. She did have an affair and my desire to stay married to her faded fairly quickly. I told her that I was done and we were divorced at the end of one year.
I am trying to walk the road less traveled this time and at least learn from my mistakes. As far as my wife having an affair I don't know if she has in the past but she doesn't seem very active now. I try not to snoop but my curiosity sometimes gets the better of me. I have checked phone and text activity from our bill and there is only the divorced wives club support group.
I know that this is a strong club and a woman scorned is a terrible frame of mind to break. One thing that I know is weighing heavy on her mind is the fact that she is responsible for a $150k debt to her father from his retirement account. He has on several occasions stated that he can't retire until that debt is paid off. She worries about how to pay him back constantly. She makes regular payments but it never seems fast enough.
Anyway I am trying to stay committed to my goal and stay in this for the long haul but if I sit through another happily ever after movie I may just scream.

Like I said.

UGH!