Your D3 picks up on what she observes from you and her mom, not all on her own. Her mom would be very normal to assume that the hurtful words from D3 were planted by your behavior or your words.

You have a role, if you choose, in helping your D3 to be confident and secure, that mommy is doing what she needs to do right now and you and D will be OK and love her from where you are.

Just a suggestion. I know that would be a hard thing to do.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.