wife moved to.parents house last week scared

[paul19510]

I am continuing to limit contact to essential item only. I know its early in this process. tomorrow will be 2 weeks. The gift of time is certainly a good way to put this. My faults are laid bare during this time. I know I am not the only one in the marriage. but there are things the I could have done differently.

I realize that I complained and was a "victim of a bad marriage" for a long time. I indulged in looking for ways out during these past few years instead of actively engaging my spouse to make it better. Although she had no direct knowledge of my complaints or of my actions to find places to stay to escape what I felt was a bad marriage, the feeling is "in the air".

Now that she's gone, even though there wee reasons I felt pushed away and not loved, I feel I could have done more. I fear it may be too late to change the tide...

BTW, I am keeping my wedding band on for now. She has not told me directly that she wants to make this anything but temporary.

My neighbor emailed me to let me know she's definitely in a lot of pain. She doesn't show I around me though. I guess that's how this plays out. My family is adamant that I should move on. Just start fresh. Am I a fool to believe that change is possible after all these years?