I agree with you. I read those books and I don't try too hard to be someone I'm not... but I like to know when I'm acting in a way that isn't attractive. Over time, perhaps we can change into someone more atteactive without faking it.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017