Oh man, you did great until that last paragraph! This would have been better:
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Thank you for your honesty and bluntness. I understand why you feel that I deceived you from Day 1. (You could have expanded on this a bit- "You sound frustrated about this, I can understand why you feel that way.")
I will continue to be civil moving forward- no matter what. Please don't feel you need to hold back on expressing your feelings for my sake. If you would feel better getting your feelings toward me out, I want you to know you can do that by any means you deem appropriate.
As far as my feelings, I have internalized them my entire life. I am working on being more open with my feelings. I only intended to let you know this was very difficult emotionally for me. I am not enjoying this. I don't delight in your pain. I am in no means implying that the opposite is true and you delight in my pain. I know I am not the victim. I apologize if you perceived me as stating that.
Respectfully, H"
Here's the deal- she doesn't give a hoot about your feelings. YOU need to care about HER feelings, and you need to STOP telling her how you feel. LISTEN and VALIDATE. Communication is ALL about her.
