What made you send her an email saying how hard this was for you? You two were going back and forth on dividing things and you decided to share?
May I ask what made her feel deceived from day 1? Its interesting....I feel the same about my H...but im the one who was left.
I'd say the response probably should've been shorter...simply validating what she said and the getting back on track, maybe: " I understand, that must've been hard for you....I do not want to make the process harder than it needs to be."
You know now for sure what you probably already knew deep down...she doesn't want to hear how you feel at this point....this is about her and what she feels she needs to do to be happy/free (or whatever her feelings).
I know that's hard, everyday I want to call my H and tell him hurt I am....and how the pain isn't getting any better even though its been months since he left....but what good will that do? As the LBS my feelings don't matter....the only time it will, will be if we reconciled. But until then most WAS dont want to her our hurt b/c in their mind the hurt we caused them is greater.
I hope you don't let her reaction get you discouraged. Simply stay on your course and keep doing what helps you become stronger through this.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
