Hoping to still move forward, huge setback

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CBT,

I have been thinking about you and your W, esp the sex issue. After giving it some thought, I remember why I didn't want to have sex and it was the pressure. Even when H wasn't pursuing, he may not even have been mentioning it but it was there between us. I knew if we went out on a date, or went away, that it was expected. It wasn't natural, and even unspoken, the pressure was there and it was a huge turnoff for me. I remember going away together and we were on the beach and went back to the room for just a minute (not even 2 hours after arriving) and H wanted to have sex and started initiating it. I did just so it wouldn't cause a problem but I didn't want to because it felt forced.

I think you are really going to have to be patient here and be sure to give a lot of affection and whatever her LL is. Back off on the sex issue and I think you may see it turn around.