Divorce on the table, Hoping for miracle

[Groov]

Update,

Went to a christmas sing along. While I was there W texted me:

W: Hey, do you have some time to talk tonight or tomorrow?

Me: Did you want to meet?

W: I don't think we need to, unless you'd prefer that.

Me: What is it regarding?

W: The paperwork, and division of properties. I had spoken with Lawyer, and have some info

(40 min later)

Me: Email me what you learned. As far as making decisions. I am focusing on the holidays, so I'll be available for that after the new year

(40 min later)

W: Really, you can't find a couple of hours in the next 16days to talk to me?

I didn't respond....

Had a call with the kids where we did our nightly prayer and scripture as a family. W of course wanted to talk after for a min.

That went something like this: W says that she thinks I am stalling... She gave me the papers and info two weeks ago... but of course in her mind as she stated on the phone it was 6 weeks ago... (WaW memory syndrome)

I hit a chord when I said that she seemed to be in a hurry with this. She then went on a rant about how if she was in a hurry she could of filed when she left... I just listened....

Hit another chord when I stated that I didn't agree with the break up of the family. She then ranted about how we need to go to mediation then to work it out. I just listened...

Anytime there was a pause for me to validate or reflect understanding she would talk over me... I just listened...

In the end I was attempting to validate and she finally just said she was through talking and we'll talk in a couple of days...

I said: Ok, have a goodnight.


Summary: I love this girl... I hate the crazy...

W is in the midst of an affair... Let the destruction of the family and everything we worked for the last 12 years begin... (but not tell after the new year )

I hope, hope, hope, I can be strong enough to keep love and be able to pick up any pieces of hope for the future.


Groov