Dxw, what you are experiencing is very typical. I remember I had the exact same feelings a year ago. I also could not stop talking about my sitch with my GF and my sister and drove them crazy sometimes too. This was before I found this site. I hope your sister has more patience. You might need that talking to help you to process your feelings. I know I needed to talk, and still do, even though it is not on the scale it was a year ago.
CC, you just described my H by saying that he likes the family time, but then goes back to his single life. This is what my H wanted, for us to be friends and attend each other’s family gatherings, mostly my family though. And then he would go back to live a single’s life and search for his “harmonious” partner. So far, he has not been at any of my family events (after BD), and I think I will not want him there in any case.
Dxw, your situation is fairly new. And this is difficult, especially during holidays. Your H is sensing that you are trying to win him back and runs even further away. You need to learn how to fake it until you make it. Act perfectly content and happy. Come to this board to post and get some advice. You can do it.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
