NEW LIFE / NEW ME - AIRBORNE II

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Melissa,
Thanks once again for kind words and advice.
I am having a hard time adjusting from withdrawn/dim to this new thing with talking, initiative and so - you know what I mean.
The two friends gave me a major boost yesterday and I think they just might have turned a down into an up. That should help me in regards of Christmas mood

Sandi,
Thanks for replying! You clarified a lot for me but as usual I still have some questions.

I know. You didn't see any of that in your answer, right?

It seems like I am ALWAYS at least one step behind. I must be very slow

The answer to this one is yes and no. I didn’t see what you explained but I did see the sentence as blaming or pointing at her decision…but I thought I was supposed to do this. See, Sandi – I try to follow advice to the word so when you say left I go left and continue to do so until you say right.
I totally get the thing about the question and if I get the chance I will do this. I will not try to point directly at her decision anymore.

Can you see the difference in the two answers?

I certainly can!

You charmed your way into her heart the first time......do it again.

I did and I do want for both me and W to have the chance of R.

Remember, I told you that you would take small steps to see if she warmed toward you. This is the time to do it.

Yes, I do remember!
She hasn’t declined an invite yet all though I have declined almost everything. She is nice and pleasant…bla bla – you know it all! ? I might be blind but I still see her as gone and I do not see her warming up – I see only her interest in being friendly and having cake. I have never tried anything like this and it might just be me!
Are you seeing her warm towards me?
When you write small steps I really need some examples!
Are we talking about a walk-by-touch? A littler firmer hug when I see her? More invitations?
I have been more pleasant, talkative and so for the last weeks but this seems like almost pursuing. And if at some point I ask her to a movie or a cup of coffee I would definitely think that I am pursuing.
I could at some point invite her to my home and tell her to stay and tug in the Ds – that would give us some time just for us.

She is already living with a great deal of it (according to reports from friends)

These reports are some weeks old now. I see asking friends about W as snooping but I certainly can do this – should I?

And.....if she accepts, make sure you get XW1 to babysit.

You know what! I just might do exactly that

I hope your mother is recovering well!
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