The holidays add stress to most people's lives and depression usually worsens (not diagnosing but she has a lot of the signs)
Do you feel that you have to do more housekeeping and she isn't doing her share?
How important to you is the other stuff? I used to get all hung up on all the Christmas stuff and baking and cards and decorating and on and on. I was so stressed I didn't enjoy the season much. Now I have a very small tree, but it's beautiful and put out about 5 small decorations in the house. The outside got lights this year because S20 wanted to do it.I don't bake unless I want to, and send cards to people I really care about, this year I think there were 5. I also don't do a lot of shopping. Several years ago I turned the shopping for H's family over to him.
Why did you hang the wreaths W asked you to leave?
If I want to do it, I do it. I don't have an expectation that someone else will do it if I don't. It may not be important to anyone else.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
