Wife says she wants to leave (Part 2)

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There's also the "wow, we can get along and still be friends even tho I'm seeing someone else" thought process. Many women have a strong need to be "liked" and are very uncomfortable when they feel someone, anyone doesn't like them.

This doesn't mean you go all Mr Anger on her, cause we don't really know where her head is. Hopefully you know where yours is and more importantly, what the specifics of your boundary are. You keep saying you're NC but you def aren't. I think it would be helpful to elaborate on that, for yourself. If a boundary isn't specific there's a whole lot of room for fudging.