The end of Limboland

[mj0221]

I am finally posting for the first time here after following the boards for, yikes, a very long time. As you can see the first of March. I am not very good with message board postings which is why I only read them so I will give it a go.

I was married 12 yrs, still am at the moment. H left 2/22/13, the day after D11 birthday this year, not telling her he was leaving, against my wishes, leaving me to tell her when she was done with gymnastics that evening Dad was gone. A little back story, H also has S16 from previous marriage aspergers. D11 was his sports child. They watched every college, nfl game, wrestling, nascar, everything together. She loves sports yet she's very girlie. She just loved doing all that with Dad and he loved it too so him leaving was devastating.

Fast forward to today. He has spent a grand total of TWO days with her since February since he left. He doesn't call her. He does text some but she has now gotten to where she doesn't bother answering his texts.

He of course is leading a secret life. It's very easy for him because of his job. I won't say what he does but I can't have access to his phone, IPad or vehicle because they are all issued from them and well I could be .... arrested probably if I tried. Out of about 500 employees he's the 12th highest person and he's waved that in front of my face many times. It is very daunting to have to deal with.

I will add more later because at this point i am on this site to help myself. My husband is long gone.

I know it's kinda creepy that I am so familiar with so many of your situations already but keep in mind I've been reading on this board since March. I want my story heard so that maybe some bit of mine can help someone else like so many of yours have helped me in moving forward.