I agree pain and depression are at the root. We can take that and empathize. Again, I can see how it is destroying the person we knew. I also can look at it for what it is too. Self-absorption.
I think much of this has to do with competition and jealousy too. For if one didn't compare oneself to those that surround them and expect. If one didn't envy what one perceive other's to have.
It brings me back to keeping up with the neighbors, or what now people see on Facebook. If a person of depth and character could get out of themselves and see what they could give rather than what they can take.
If they can look outside of themselves and see/know that there will always be others who have or attain more than themselves. Just as there will always be those that have less.
Life isn't a competition. Attaining a family and providing is not a competitive sport. Success isn't about material goods or power. Happiness can not be provided by goods or beings.
This is where I see a difference between selfishness and self introspection. What is it that triggers the component of self preservation at all costs? The cost of losing or purposely destroying what was created and built? What triggers the self-sabotage v.s. self-help?
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
