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Amb,

First thanks for the post on being mentaly strong. I know I need to continue to remind myself of some of them...

There is so much in what you have said here....
"He may not have had a choice to have this crisis, but he does have a choice what he does with his behavior. It is not okay to rob a bank, physically abuse someone, steal, rape or murder. Yes those are extremes, but it is not okay to desert someone either. This is what he has done.

He could have communicated , gotten himself into weekly therapy, researched , instead he ran away. This is a person of weak character. I'm so glad I don't have sons, for I would hate for them to learn this behavior and sometime down the road repeat it and cause another woman this pain."

I ended up in a coversation with W and she commented how she was proud of what she has accomplished and who she has become. I validated that, because there are changes she is making in finding herself that are good. But I also stated that I disagreed with how she has chose to do so. Running away and hurting those around you including your children is not the way to improve oneself....

But having said that I also remind myself of something that has stuck with me all along this journey, which I believe to be especially true do to my Wife's abuse growing up. That their pain is greater than what we realize....

Thanks for all your posts AMB, keep busting and improving you... You are going to shine one day, I can already start to see the glow