Hello DB family! Well I have just returned today from a wonderful weekend in Kalamazoo Michigan to celebrate my oldest daughter receiving her Doctoral Degree! Needless to say I am one proud Papa! It was great to spend time with her, her husband and my son. We had a great time. The youngsters tried to get their old man snockered on Saturday night after the graduation ceremony, but I held my own and then some! So it was them waking up with the hangover and not me!
Anyhow, the ride from Virgina to Michigan just showed how badly I need some sort of intervention. At one point I had count them 5 women text messaging me at pretty much the same time. One I am currently dating (Julie - more about our Thursday date later), one I went to high school with and want to date badly (Sarah), one I was married to who all of a sudden is showing a lot of interest in me (Denise), one I was dating a while back and seems to want to re-open the door (Marianne) and finally one who I work with who "checks" in with me occassionally enough to make me think she might be interested in more than just a working relationship (Mary). Good grief.
Ok so Thursday's date with Julie was pretty damn good. She is very cute, quite the extrovert and spunky. We had a nice three hour dinner followed by a fair amount of affection! She's a pretty good kisser! ;-) We are scheduled for a second date tomorrow night. Could be promising.
Wednesday night I am meeting Sarah for the first time. I am still looking forward to that since she seems like a really nice person.
Finally, the communication with Sarah from Michigan has really taken off. I have to say I am very, very attracted to her and we have history with going to the same high school and friends, but I keep asking myself how in heck can this work out with her in Michigan and me here.
That's enough for now. I'm exhausted and the Lions are on! Go Lions!!!
Does she have to stay in Michigan? How old are your girls again? Nothing says you have to marry the girl. Or let's put it this way, anyone worth being with, you will find a way.
Do each of the ladies know you are dating other people? How are they with that? Just wondering. Maybe it is me, or my age but after a couple of dates I would not be good with that.
As for Marianne and your ex, there were choices made I believe by them that left you alone. Do they deserve a 2nd shot while you have at least two ladies that you know might go somewhere?
Just thinking out loud and maybe asking some questions that you need to answer for yourself.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hi Kat. My girls are 15 and 17. I'm not going anywhere for at least 2 to 3 years. She doesn't have to stay in Michigan but we would need to have an extended relationship before I would ever feel comfortable asking her to do that and with her being hundreds of miles away, it is difficult seeing how we are going to do that. I'm not ruling it out, just trying to be rationale.
I for my ex-wife - no she does not deserve a second chance. As for Marianne - I'm not sure at this point.
I've only gone out with Julie once and with Sarah not at all. I've mentioned before that I am uncomfortable dating more than one woman at the same time, but many on the board felt that early on that should not be an issue. I think my comfort zone is after 5 or 6 dates. By then I have a good enough feel to either cut things off, or to start looking at exclusitivity.
Wow BA - you da man! Words of warning - 1. Be 100% who you are reply to before you hit send 2. Always check your auto correct. I've sent some weird stuff. Yesterday my BIL asked my sis if she had bought Degrading DVDs for their daughter for Christmas (Degrassi DVDs) LOL 3. Don't text & drive
I think Kat makes excellent points. I would not be good with my "guy" dating others by about 3 dates
Update on my health stuff since I posted it here earlier. Back to my Dr today to start on Diabetes meds/ diet plan. But that's the least of my worries. The C word has been mentioned a lot in the past 2 weeks. Imagine getting the C & D words at the same time. Anyway - yesterday I drove an hour away to a hospital & had 2 different ultrasounds then got a last minute call that I got squeezed in to be seen by a specialist there in late afternoon. More tests & a painful biopsy. And we had to discuss my upcoming vacation plans which may or may not happen. I told him I really want to go to Hawaii as it is Josh's only vacation time & Ashley has planned for it all year. He said that should be ok but asked if he could call me there - even if it is bad news. (I said ok). He wants me back in his office the day after i get home. I'm booked for Florida 2 weeks later but told him I would cancel that flight if need be.
But it's not all doom & gloom. Might have some results by Fri and his initial exam was somewhat ok. But biopsies tell more. We will see.
So - trying to stay positive. It was a very painful drive home last night. ashley offered to drive but I preferred as it gave me something to think about & the roads and traffic were bad. It is so damn cold here! -26 at times with wind chill of -32. Just 15 days to Hawaii - and I WILL be there!
You are definitely in my thoughts and prayers right now. The D and C words are both life altering discussions singularly, and I can't imagine how you feel hearing both of them together. The D word requires lifestyle modifications that are significant to manage properly, but have a far more predictable outcome when you make those changes. I pray that you get relief and peace of mind. You definitely need a big break.
My D16 is prediabetic - it's not as bad a Dx as the D, but we've had to go ahead and make those lifestyle and dietary changes now to keep her from heading down that path. So far, it's been very successful.
Let me know when you get your FitBit! I'll jump back on the wagon with you. I've really slacked off this month because Mr. Wonderful has been in DC since 12/4 and doesn't get back until Friday. I try to walk at lunchtime, but that was a no go when it was 0 degrees and icy outside. Just not happening. I really miss it. Since we're going to be in the 60s today, I'm hoping to get out for a little walk today. I'll be your FitBit buddy...
BA-I'm nothing short of stunned by your texting adventures. Holy mother cow of the pasture. How on earth are you even navigating that much texting??? That makes my head swim. I'd short circuit and shove my head in the sand! I can barely function with steady texts to my D19 and anyone else! Thank goodness she's coming home tonight so I don't have to text anymore with her for awhile!
I don't even have the bandwidth to deal with my own stuff right now. This extended business trip that has me being #1 parent 24/7 is really wearing me down. To add to the fun, I'm having a colonoscopy on Thursday. I don't know how everything got condensed into one crappy week. Pun intended. I haven't even gone Christmas shopping yet. Having a date with the toilet isn't going to help my cause, so this weekend I'm having to forego a party I relish to get that jump started. Kinda stinks, but you gotta roll with it.
All I can say is bring it on. D16 is really out of sorts - probably a combination of missing her dad as well as needing that break from school that arrives Friday afternoon; and Mr. W. has been extremely crabby too. I almost called him out on it Sunday, when we were discussing weekend plans for the girls. He's not normally a dick, so it's pretty unpleasant when he IS one. I decided not to go there, as he was at my parents' house yesterday since he had the day off (doing laundry, playing cribbage with my dad and then taking them out to dinner). He told my mom that working 12 hour days since 12/4 with 2 days off is wearing him out and he's just pissy. Hopefully, he gets back to being a human being when he gets home and sees D19 again. Next person who gets to act pissy is me - it's my turn for sure.
Barb, keep positive. We're here for you...
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Update on my health stuff since I posted it here earlier. Back to my Dr today to start on Diabetes meds/ diet plan. But that's the least of my worries. The C word has been mentioned a lot in the past 2 weeks. Imagine getting the C & D words at the same time. Anyway - yesterday I drove an hour away to a hospital & had 2 different ultrasounds then got a last minute call that I got squeezed in to be seen by a specialist there in late afternoon. More tests & a painful biopsy. And we had to discuss my upcoming vacation plans which may or may not happen. I told him I really want to go to Hawaii as it is Josh's only vacation time & Ashley has planned for it all year. He said that should be ok but asked if he could call me there - even if it is bad news. (I said ok). He wants me back in his office the day after i get home. I'm booked for Florida 2 weeks later but told him I would cancel that flight if need be.
But it's not all doom & gloom. Might have some results by Fri and his initial exam was somewhat ok. But biopsies tell more. We will see.
So - trying to stay positive. It was a very painful drive home last night. ashley offered to drive but I preferred as it gave me something to think about & the roads and traffic were bad. It is so damn cold here! -26 at times with wind chill of -32. Just 15 days to Hawaii - and I WILL be there!
Barb
Ah Hawaii, I've never been so tell us all about it so I can live vicariously through you haha.
I am keeping you in my prayers. (((hugs)))
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
Barb, I was diagnosed with diabetes 10 years ago...alondg with high cholesterol and a fatty liver. I lost 38lbs. in five months through changing my diet and exercise. It can be done and it wasn't as hard as I imagined it would be. You can do it too! As for the C word, hang in there and keep your positive attitude. You're a strong lady! And BA, who the hell is Marianne? I've lost track!
