Doesnt sound ridiculous at all, J. Whatever it takes to help you along, is all good.
I was thinking about what some of the others wrote. While I agree that one shouldnt analyze the MLCer, because, no one really knows what their crisis is about except them, I do not think it is necessarily a bad thing to think about their past a bit.
I know for me, understanding my xh's life events allowed me to feel compassion for him. I didnt dwell on them, nor could I know how much of them brought him to where he was. But, it did allow for some introspection on my own life's events and how they have affected me.
