wife wants divorce

[MrBond]

"Well, I replied back and I know I shouldn't have."

No you don't or else you wouldn't have done it and argued with people who said not to reply.

"It seems like a guilt issue to me, anything to keep me hanging on too in a way. Idk.:

You're mindreading.

"It's making me sick and exhausted."

No. YOU are making yourself sick and exhausted. You wouldn't be bothered by all this if you just let it go.

"I can't expose the affair. This guy doesn't use his real name on fb, Twitter, or anything. He has a daughter and he's 10 years older than my W. I don't know if he has SO. A friend told me this info and I asked him not to. It doesn't do me any good."

Exposing isn't going to help. I mean she left anyway so it's not like no one is going to find out.

"While being in bed sick I've made some decisions and come to some conclusions."

You mean guesses and assumptions.

"W is going to continue avoiding me and everything that has to do with me, our pets, and belongings here. She will send her mom and the family friend to get her stuff and car. They are coming out here after Christmas. I suspect this will happen then. If so, and this is the path and action W is taking, I will then sort and box everything else and put it in storage.

I was trying not to add this info but it is relevant and I should've. I work for her parents. Our house and job are through a company they own. After last call with W she said I can stay here and I still have my job. That's great and I'm thankful to my in laws for that. But I think that's a guilt thing with my W. Plus it keeps me here if and when things fall through with the affair. So my plan there is to stay till there is action on the divorce paperwork. If she goes through with it I think I need to quit and move. As much as I love my job and in laws I'll have to.

I'm close to my in laws but it will be hard on me emotionally and mentally if I stay here. I have no other job prospects and nowhere to go but I think it is what I'll have to do. The issue here is that I will have to let them know ahead of time. They have been really good to us and helped is so much. This job was for us to save money and have a nest egg. So I have to let them know something before the papers are filed. They will be sad but understanding."

There's alot of mindreading. You're guess alot of things here. All this will do is consume your attention.