wife hardens heart-6

[planet]

I thought you were going to learn how to be a better parent.

I am learning.

Because she feels torn between the two of you. She feels like she's in the middle of a tug of war. She doesn't want to have your W be mad at her for being with you because she's seen the two of you argue so much with one another. That needs to stop.

It has stopped.
That's why I avoid all contact with XW for now.
I know she'll just do what she does if I try to talk to her about the kids.

You have to make her feel comfortable and stop demanding snswers from her. She probably is confused and doesn't know why she feels the way she does.

She behaves differently after she follows me. We do have a good time.
I note that if I go 'hard' on her, she backs off.

You said that you were going to read up on it.

I did. And I try.