It is well with my soul

[Raine]

Raine,

What makes you think that H will trot off obediently to IC after a "stern" telling off from Linda? He won't for the following reasons:

1) He is still very much wrapped up and enamored with his fake wife named "RT"
2) He has a host of health problems...he just cannot handle IC on top of it
3) He is still eating fermented oatmeal on the 'orders' of RT...which is a big jump from this to IC!

Wonka, those are only if Linda's H begs to stay. He may not. He may just leave after Christmas, nothing more said, and then the boundaries aren't discussed anyway. If he begs to stay, he will do anything to stay. I told my H I was setting him up for failure if I put the expectation there that he had to quit OW cold turkey. And yes he avoided and pushed the limit on that boundary, but I did not back down on it. Linda's H is going to need all the help he can get if his drug of choice is off the table. That has to forever be off the table if he is going to live there with her. And if he leaves, he may ask to come back, and she needs to be prepared with what her boundaries are.