I have written before about how important it is to the MLCer to feel heard. You dont have to agree with what they are feeling, but, it is best to accept that this is how they feel right now.
So, when it comes to holidays and anniversaries, tread lightly. You can give gifts from you and your children if you feel as if you have to give something.
If you feel you must give a gift from you, make it a simple, non personal gift. But be prepared for a less than stellar reaction.
Often anything more feels like pressure to them and feelings of not being heard.
They may seem more sullen and angry. Give them plenty of space.
Try your best to make memories and new traditions with your children.
The thing is this. This crisis is going to have to run its course. There are no short cuts, no magic words, no definitive actions.
Your anger, your sadness, your worry and despair, while understandable, isnt going to affect the outcome.
So, why not move forward, do the work, and detach and find you?
Then, no matter what happens, you will have become the best you.
