Linda, I’m so sorry that your H is continuing to behave this way. I agree with other posters that you did the right thing to tell him that you had enough of his antics. Now you need to stay the course. You have nothing to lose.

I’m posting a couple of quotes from the Stop Your Divorce book I keep reading over and over.

“So the reason he’s pulling away is he has low self-esteem and he’s looking down on you for being in love with him.”

“The more you pursue your husband, wife, or girlfriend, the more you pursue them,
the more they subconsciously have contempt for you. They think you’re stupid to be in love with them, because they have such a low opinion of themselves, whether they’re aware of this or not.”

Something to think about. Your H definitely has low self–esteem issue. You need to show him your strong side and stop tolerating his bad behavior.

M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state