Hi, these are good posts, and capture what some people challenge - the strangeness and alienation of the MLCer. My xh would like us to have the situation Gillian and Robin - a sort of reconciliation but without him acknowledging the past eight years. He doesn't want to live with me but he does want me in his life.
I think there is no psychological reality to this, and it is profoundly unhealthy. These people really do have to work through all of this in order to have a relationship of any meaning.
