Reaching out for support and advice!!

[bluesgal]

Had a tough situation with H anger this weekend. Went out to see our favorite live band play at our town festival. My parents, his parents, our kids and several friends were there. H met us there after work. Everything seemed a-ok. We talked, shared a couple drinks, laughed. Kids went home with grandparents and H drove us home. When we got there, he said ok, see you later. I was like what?? So, I hesitated getting out of the vehicle and asked him if everything was ok, does he want to talk about anything, then he got extremely angry. Almost like a rage. I was just confused that he was dropping me off instead of going home like we always have before. I was caught off guard.

He started punching the steering wheel, yelling and cursing he just wants to drive around and have time alone. Things didn't end well. I didn't feel safe. I stayed at my parents that night. H slept in his vehicle on a below 0 night in his work parking lot.

We spoke the next day. He apologized. He cried. He told me he is confused. I asked him to leave for a little while until he can get his anger under control. He's now crashing on a (loser) friends couch. I'm sure reliving the glory days with no responsibility. This feels awful.

Did I do the right thing? Talked to our counselor today. He agreed with me. Our sitch seems more and more hopeless everyday. The kids and I are on our own again. Alone in our home with all the responsiblities while H lives the life of a teenager. Resentment is creeping in again. No phone calls or texts from him to see the kids. Nothing.

It's these unexpected and odd situations that throw me off of my DB. I didn't push or pressure him.