I agree that it is so hard dealing with betrayal. It is only natural for you to feel angry and upset. How else could you feel? I can sense your calmness and I am proud of you.
You are right that your kids deserve better, but how 'bout this thought...they ARE getting better from you right now. You are becoming a better father, no?
There is nothing to do but become comfortable in your vulnerability and use it for strength of character. This is why your ability to sit with this before you react is being tested. You are passing!
Take care of yourself. Remember that this is happening to bring you closer to your purpose in life.
I have been asking myself these questions each day...
1. What are my intentions (for any given situation or action)?
and
2. Am I taking responsibility?
and
3. Can I control this situation?
If the answer to number one is LOVE and the answer to the 2nd is YES...then I feel pretty good about myself. The answer to #3 is always no because if number one and two are right, then there is nothing left for me to do.
Keep DBing...keep love in your heart. It is all going to be OK.
Me:35 BF:36 Together 4.5 years lived together 2 years moved out 8-13 still "together" but not together. Confused. D11, D13 (from 1st marriage)
