Everyone's right. Start taking the initiative of finding out about your children's activities and not to rely on your XW. PLUS, start getting that custody back so that you can spend more time with them. If they see you spending more time with your new family, they could grow to be very resentful.
Plus they will never be able to bond with your new family unless they are around them (no pun intended MrBond lol). Once they get to spend time with your new family they will be able to figure out that they are not the evil empire as portrayed.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
