H left wants D I don't.....EA as well

[NotAgainPlease]

FOTW,

Yes, I have thanks!!
My H is has been going to school for the past 3 years to be a paramedic/firefighter. A major part of our stress and money issues. Just to give a little back story. He was offered a FF job 3 mos. ago and then they city put it on hold due to budgets.
H took a full time job with a friend because his paramedic job wasn't giving enough hours. So not he does both. 6-7 days a week. He is going to burn out I am afraid but I also think it is his way of not dealing??
Anyway, I have always been the one to fill out and send the tedious applications. There haven't been many to do lately but I have just been passing the notices along to him.
Today one came up that needed to be done today. I sent it to him and told him. He said he was too busy today and couldn't get to it unill tonight. Not wanting to but I did because he needs to be independent.... I said if you would like I will do it for you? He said if I would he would really appreciate it. I said okay and thanked me very much....I actually did two for him.

I am not sure if you know we went though this 7 years ago and obviously didn't learn .
I reread my old post and I still am unsure about the not contact or contact with kindness for him. I know contact with kindness is seen but no contact at all?? Not sure he misses or is a good strategy? I am just kind of talking out loud as we really don't have much no contact. We do physically and emotionally really as texts are brief and not about us but??

He does respond to kindness for sure I just need to figure out how much or little. I need to follow his lead..I need to let him initiate contact for sure.

H is a very social person. Texting, talking etc. H said he was no longer with EA but I have heard that MANY times before. H told D13 the other day the same thing.
H has been doing very little texting(phone bill, I know bad) however he has a work phone which he says is strictly for work. H has always been self employed and had lots of free texting time. No more. My point being little texting is different for him. Maybe he is still with EA? If not he may start texting me? However I know he texts my daughter a lot. I make him sound like a textoholic, lol..maybe?? Seems to always need to talk to someone, I guess I didn't fulfill that .
Sorry rambling!