Newbie needs help:husband left Saturday

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I wonder if someone could comment on cadet's quote: Your spouse has given you a gift, the gift of time: use it wisely... indeed, I am struggling with this - it seems that since the bomb drop, I have felt I am in a ticking time bomb - first, that he wanted to move out without working on things and it was clear he wanted it pretty quickly and second, the final notification with only 3 days until actual move-out day. Now Christmas is upon us - how do you feel - well, not so under-the-gun - to work through your feelings, your relationship, your life... when the other has cut out and shut down?