I'd have guessed history nerd right after you mentioned remembering Stockdale ran for VP.
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Picture a 23 year old vacuuming and screaming fvck, c-nt, p---y!
I. Cannot. Stop. Laughing. My cubicle farm compadres are starting to stare and I may wet my pants if I can't laugh out loud. Thank you for sharing that!!!
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It will change one day.
Each day, JF. Each moment. ...and you will prevail in the end.
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Gotta take things one step at a time. I am a good person...
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I have owned up to and accepted my contributions to our less than stellar R.
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I can lay out exactly why she is where she is and what her issues are. It's very clear to me what is going with her. She is returning to the moment when her mother left and gave her no direction during her teenage years. She's got a lot of work to do.
Umm... No. Don't do that. Let's not think we have it figured out. Remember that Stockdale thing? You're looking at this searching for meaning. A larger purpose vs. what is, is. Try not to do that as it may lead you down the path of getting your hopes broken. What if it is the reason? What if there are more reasons after this one? What if you're wrong? What if you're right? - the actions are still the same and you cannot fix it. If you cannot fix her, then perhaps your time is better spent elsewhere? You'll know the real reasons as that information is truly needed. Not a moment before that. Stop trying to read the end of the book first.
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As for me, I'm making myself a plan to deal with my issues one at a time.
Yes! Much like the old saying -"Don't try to swallow the whole elephant. Elephants are best eaten in pieces"
I think you've done a great job so far, but wanted to remind you to watch your step. It's easy and comfortable to "diagnose" her. It's warm. Inviting. But not very useful to you amigo.
Focus on you. Focus on your kids. Let her figure out if she's going to keep up with you or not. Let her try and figure out why you're happy, content, and ready for anything. Why you're not running after her like a love-sick puppy. Let her wonder if people are starting to talk about her in sunday school class. Or behind her back. Let her figure out if you have told everyone that would listen or not (hopefully not). Not the other way around.
Life's good JF. Don't miss a minute of it.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
