Hello, my friend. You know how I feel about this. I am so very proud of you standing up for you.
What I want you to really know is that what you are doing is actually an act of love. It is allowing your h to walk his journey without any kind of interference. It is also an act of love for yourself.
I have wanted you to do something different for quite some time. I knew you would when you were ready.
Having a MLC does not give them a free pass to behave disrespectfully towards their spouse. It is not ok.
So, I know you, Rosa, you are going to be hard on yourself. Dont be. You are going to have some ups and downs. Be kind to you. Cry if you need to and then when you can, picture your little Brooklyn friend telling you, that you are going to be ok.
You will be, you know. And you know my answer to most things. Turn up the music and sing as loud as you can. And dance like no one is watching.
I prefer for you to look at this not as an ultimatum. You are setting a boundary that is saying, you will not tolerate unkind behaviour any longer. And you will not tolerate another person in your marriage.
As FY said, it is imperative that you stick to this boundary. He may, when he sees you are serious, become angry or he may try to change his ways a bit. You need to see consistent behaviours over a long period, so, be aware that they often do try to smooth things over for a time.
We are all here for you, praying and rooting you on. You can do this, sweetie.
