Hello and welcome! You've got a good start having read DB and gotten a DB coach. Have you read DR as well? DR is a bit more "updated" than DB.
Originally Posted By: paul19510
She left by saying shes taking time to think and within 20 days her ring is off and shes telling people shes done....
WAS's always speak in absolutes. They'll say there's no hope, they're done, it's over, etc. Some later reconcile and some don't, so those kind of comments don't really offer any insight into what will happen in the future.
Your sitch is very young, this is a long, long process. It will take months if not a year or more to resolve. I'm 18 months post-BD and still don't know what the future holds regarding my M. So hang in there, it's a marathon, not a sprint! Use the time wisely. Own your mistakes in the M, do 180's on those mistakes. Become the spouse only a fool would leave.
