wife moved to.parents house last week scared

[paul19510]

Hi all
My wife of 16 years moved to her parents 12/5. She has also spent several nights house sitting accross the street after she left our house. We've been struggling for years and have seen 2 therapists during that time. We have 3 kids. S 12 d 13 and d 16. She came to the house this morning to pick up the kids for school. She was early and I was outside walking the dogs. Usually she pulls in calls the kids to the car and leaves. We don't see each other that way.

I spoke with my coach Jody on Friday. She reminded me of the 4 Cs and to back off except for essential stuff ie kids house or business stuff. She Also asked me to send an email to.W. once a week with "events at the house this week". I did that.

Her dad just fell over the weekend and is now in hospital. She told.me that today. The kids came up during our brief talk our S is sick with anxiety and I had to tell her I was keeping him home today . She reminded me that they are hurting and she said with tears she missed them. I replied we miss you too. I have put my wedding ring back on and she could see that. She hes removed
hers. I noticed but didn't say. She started to hide her hand while we talked after I noticed. Continuing to work on detachment and bettering me. My freinds wife spoke with her and relayed that she told the wife shes "done". I have been uncertain about this marriage for a while now but feel empty without her here. Now thee its going south. I don't want it to happen. Is there hope. She left by saying shes taking time to think and within 20 days her ring is off and shes telling people shes done....