Well, I replied back and I know I shouldn't have. She just wanted to know how I was and how everything was going here. I told her me and everything is great. She replied, after some minutes, that's awesome and she's glad I'm doing good. I said you too and that ended our texting.

Mutual friends (married couple) called a few times yesterday morning seeing how I was doing. I was out and have been sick so I haven't talked to them in four days. I thought part of W texting was because they haven't heard from me. Our mutual friends showed up not long after. My W and the W of this couple are good friends. I know they still talk but that's all I know. And that she is upset with my W about our situation and her decisions (leaving, affair). After I deactivated my fb account this friend made a comment about being one of my fb stalkers, Wth. I let it go but she wanted to know why I deleted my account. Anyway...

It seems like a guilt issue to me, anything to keep me hanging on too in a way. Idk. It's making me sick and exhausted.

I can't expose the affair. This guy doesn't use his real name on fb, Twitter, or anything. He has a daughter and he's 10 years older than my W. I don't know if he has SO. A friend told me this info and I asked him not to. It doesn't do me any good.

While being in bed sick I've made some decisions and come to some conclusions.
W is going to continue avoiding me and everything that has to do with me, our pets, and belongings here. She will send her mom and the family friend to get her stuff and car. They are coming out here after Christmas. I suspect this will happen then. If so, and this is the path and action W is taking, I will then sort and box everything else and put it in storage.

I was trying not to add this info but it is relevant and I should've. I work for her parents. Our house and job are through a company they own. After last call with W she said I can stay here and I still have my job. That's great and I'm thankful to my in laws for that. But I think that's a guilt thing with my W. Plus it keeps me here if and when things fall through with the affair. So my plan there is to stay till there is action on the divorce paperwork. If she goes through with it I think I need to quit and move. As much as I love my job and in laws I'll have to.

I'm close to my in laws but it will be hard on me emotionally and mentally if I stay here. I have no other job prospects and nowhere to go but I think it is what I'll have to do. The issue here is that I will have to let them know ahead of time. They have been really good to us and helped is so much. This job was for us to save money and have a nest egg. So I have to let them know something before the papers are filed. They will be sad but understanding.