Hi all. I'm new here.

[2ndTimeHurt]

Thanks 2ta. Funny how our usernames are similar.

I'm not sure how much to go dark. I know I should go slightly dim for periods of time. All I know is what worked the last time for me. And that was to be there for her and my family. I got to a point where I felt like I was pretty detached so I didn't have any expectations for doing the things I was doing.

I do know that when she finally came back it was after a long time (14 months) and we had both started dating others. I don't really want it to go that route again but I'm prepared for that.