It's a tough spot. Have you and W talked about the problem? I didn't see that you answered that above.

A lot of people don't see it as a serious issue because it is used like alcohol and is easily available. Did you drink when you were underage? If so, what could any one have said to stop you from that arguably even more destructive behavior?

At that age they are indestructible in their minds and we adults know next to nothing.

I agree with Ad, support groups are great for this as well as letting your son know you love him, no matter what.

Just like with our partners, we also can't change our kids by force of will. Letting go comes in to play again.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss