Would you trade spots with me if you could? I see my ex almost everyday, we do family stuff together, we've had one on one hangouts, I help her with groceries, our texts are fun sometimes, massages etc.
The reason I'm asking is because it seems like I'm supposed to go dark a bit. And I get that. I've gone that route before(first time she left). I'm just wondering if there is a sweet spot or happy medium or does it change depending on the stage of reconciliation you're at.
I guess I'm asking because it seems like people would kill to have some of the interactions I get. Therefore I feel like I want to get as much as possible or at least not take it for granted.
Hey 2Th, I am responding to the question you posed on my thread here.
After reading thru posts on this forum for the past 10 months I have found that it is virtually impossible to predict which situations will eventually reconcile. When a left behind spouse sticks with DBing and generally applies the principles he/she has a shot.
I haven't read your entire back story so it would be very difficult for me to guess what will happen with you. Even then, I would probably be wrong.
A few few of the other threads I have followed have seemed to come extremely close to reconciliation only to completely fall apart. I have felt very hopefully in my situation and now I am feeling like it would take a miracle for my situation to reconcile.
Some who stick with it for a long time seem to reconcile out of her blue.
Right now I give you a better shot than me, but not because you have more interaction with your w. More because I don't personally have the intestinal fortitude to stick with it for much longer.
Since I haven't followed your situation from the beginning, I am not sure why others would say you should go dark. The main thing is to do what works.
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
