I think you're cutting off your nose to spite your face with the case against your XW. I think you proved your point already.

Your sitch sounds ridiculously hard, but if you focus all the positive energy you can on your kids, you'll be doing the best you can.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.