this is the first conversation I had with my wife about us in months about our R, maybe some one can tell me at what point I should start smacking my self with a 2 x 4. w: Hey m: hello w: What you doing m: reading w: What you reading m: couple different books w: Title w: Or shall I say titles m: one is the five love languages and the other is a book for celebrate recovery, oh and a cussler book for lite reading w: Lol.light reading? m: the cussler books don't take much thinking, just imagination the other two take a lot of reflection w: I see You may be right In fact you are right. m: that I need a lot of reflection? w: For you, reflection would be good m: you are probably right w: So what do you see when you reflect? m: the direction I want to move toward w: Which is? m: to grow
at this point I am thinking in need to get of the tracks because i can see what"s coming, but well I guess I had to see where her mind is at so I stayed
w: What do you see for us? m: I can only give half that answer w: Ok. give me half m: yes w: So what do you see? m: are you sure W: Yes. Tell me m: I am waiting on you W: You said you only know half. I wanted to hear your half m: I am only half of us, I am waiting on you to see what you are going to do with your half of us w: You think we would truly ever work out? Seriously? w: you've been saying ever since the beginning of our marriage things would change.......instead of for good it just etching away. . ......never getting better. w: All that we mastered was on how to strip someone of themselves til they are all depleted to nothing of themselves. w: I can't seem to function on somethings that are just plain and simple. But I had it taken for so long that I can't function without your suppression. m: I am sorry you feel that way w: It's really sickening..... w: I don't think you realize the mental damage I have. It's stupid. m: I understand w: Really? You think you do? m: you have a good evening ok goodnight w: What's wrong w: Good night
I have let go of her, I put no pressure on her, this is our first OR talk since she left the second time in august other wise I stay quiet, tonight I tried to stay distant but conversational
if someone can give me some advice I would appreciate it. my wife has always made up her own mind. I just don't understand where this suppression thinking comes from.
