I feel your pain. Been separated now just a little more than eight months. I see we have similar timelines for being together and married (also with no children). When this all started, I thought three months, six on the outside, and we would be in a place to give it another try. The truth is I was willing to try (probably not ready) day one. It is a bitter pill to swallow that your W needs to choose you and your relationship before that can happen. If they are dealing (or not dealing) with other issues, then it can be much, much longer.
My W actually filed for divorce. It was BD all over again. However, there has been no movement on the D. I'm hopeful she is now beginning to reconsider divorce. Ending our separation seems painfully far off.
As many people here will tell you, this is a marathon, not a sprint. What they may not tell you is this is a 25k iron man competition. You'll fall down plenty. You'll pick yourself back up. The longer it goes, the harder it seems. We just need to keep trying long enough to reach the finish line.
